Why do they DO that That’s right – that thing the man in your life (or the guy you like) does or says to you that feels so awful likely has nothing to do with you.It’s just him being “a guy.” And that thing you say or do that makes him super annoyed/upset/shut down/angry/fill-in-the-blank toward you is just you being a “woman.” You know, like talking too much about your problems (because it makes you feel so close to him – but makes him want to crawl under a rock), asking him to share his inner-most thoughts, wanting to plan a future together while he seems focused on the moment. Women are now graduating from college, law school, and medical school at a higher rate than men. It means, for many of us, we can no longer expect to “marry up” by finding a nice guy who is “older, richer, smarter, taller…” than we are.Dating is a stage of romantic or sexual relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially, possibly as friends or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in a more committed intimate relationship or marriage.It can be a form of courtship that consists of social activities done by the couple.
So when we spend time with a man we really like and are interested in him as a boyfriend, we start to look for proof that he wants the same thing we do.Probably you’ve noticed, for example, that when you really want to talk about something “sensitive” like where your relationship is headed, or what he’s really feeling… You may be confused as to why men don’t open up as easily as your girlfriends do, or seem to resist when you try to “help” him or give advice…And don’t you hate it (’cause we all do) when men seem to clam up, and withdraw, giving us the “silent treatment” or worse – disappear for a while?I have just read your latest email about mistakes and I have to admit I nearly wept. I recently started spending a lot of time with a guy I used to know. Let me get right to the point here about what you need to do…And here’s my response…The attraction’s gone for him now.We had an instant connection and he was exactly as you said: affectionate at first, initiating plans etc, then I made not one mistake but ALL of those you mentioned in your email, and as you said…. What I want to know is, is there any way I can reverse the damage I have caused? Is it possible he may learn to feel again what he once felt for me? I’m at my wits end and I really do miss having him in my life.The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.